A cursory glance over the standard Indian man on the street and you will notice. Large beautifully shaped almond bags, barely any eye bags and fresh appearance.
You will almost consider him for a child and could never guess his precise age.
A child, Blaze uncle?
Alas, that childlike appearance is not only outward. It goes inward as well.
Is that a problem?
Yes, if you are a woman living in India.
In a recent post of ours we praised the Indian woman brave and capable of cheating her husband. In other words we praised Naughty Sitas 🙂
Then all of a sudden rage took over our fans.
For them the thought of an Indian woman cheating is too much to bear and whatever reason that could lead to adultery could not be even remotely discussed.
There are tons of things a cheating woman can teach you
.. I always say. But this seems to be beyond comprehension of the Indian man.
There is a good reason for that. It has something to do with the way man Indian men are raised.
Unlike girls who are often considered a burden a black sheep in the traditional Indian family, male children always come with bespoken privileges.
They are the bearers of the next generation, the inheritors of the family property.
Inside their small hairy balls, they carry the progeny that will enable the family’s ancestry get reborn into this planet again.
Small hairy balls? Did you have to use that line, Blaze uncle?
Upss…
As such they have to be tended for, nurtured and looked after their every whim.
It is a heart wrenching experience for the Indian mother not being able to feed her son straight from her own hands.
This careful treatment of the male child goes by the time he is already grown up.
Mataji is having hard times surrendering him to the world for molding and he doesn’t have tons of reason to give up of the 10-hooded serpent coil he has been groomed in so far, either.
And we know how children are. Proud. Possessive. Lack the ability to compromise. They attach themselves to an object and cling to them.
Such upbringing that most Indian men obtain lasts almost until his adulthood ensures that by the time they grow up into adults, their inner child still dominates.
For most of them, woman becomes just another precious possession.
Even today most Indian men live with their fantasies of finding their perfect Sita who will circumnavigate them with folded hands and pleasing their every whim.
If only they were sage Gautama capable of turning their wife into stone every time she fails to comply.
Such childlike mentality keeps them company throughout the adulthood and develops many complexes once they venture the wide world.
When they seek for life partner what they truly seek is someone who will give them their exact same pleasure their mothers used to give them at home.
But this time it gets worse, na?This time there is no mother around to chastise the kid.
If we can talk about one single best benefit of the marriage that would be the unique chance to outgrow yourself by living full time merge with a personality, a spirit that is not yours, a privilege to get out of the confinement of your own way of thinking, the shackles of your own world.
But that’s not what the Indian man considers marriage to be.
Things get worse in the case of adultery, a phenomena so frowned upon in India because you cannot escape debate of adultery without someone plugging in the concept of morality in it.
And those talks about morality? How can you possibly discuss morality with someone who has been living under glass bell for most of his life?
Morality is something which we cultivate throughout our entire lives and is a direct consequence of our experiences and interactions with the world.
The kind of rich experience the average Indian middle class man has rarely goes beyond the smell of his own mother’s saree.
If morality was as simple as a double sided coin there wouldn’t be a separate class of people pondering over it called philosophers.
The talk of morality rarely holds any argument when discussed by layman and in the case of Indian men talks of morality just a mere cover for his own insecurities
Being deprived of the “honor” of having a compliant woman of it is an extraordinary shock for him just like it was when someone took his plastic toy 15 years ago.
Grow up, you Indian men
Try to understand that your life partner is not a replacement for your mother. And before we label a woman as black or pink let’s recall that we all came out of her flash and blood.
Not from a lotus.
