Since Eve ate that damn apple, women everywhere have been bearing the brunt of it.
Women aren’t supposed to do this, women aren’t supposed to do that ..yada yada.
My personal favorite- women should not masturbate and women aren’t as sexual as men. If it was up to our society, masturbation would have been sold like one gupt rog, with no remedy. Oh wait! It already has.
We have evolved from kyunki saas bhi kabhi bahu thi to Dev D where the girl in her loudest voice says “bhaiya condom hai kya” and that’s when you know that you are liberated.
Sexual liberation is not just about being sexually active but it is more about throwing the fear of “log kya socheinge” somewhere outside the pharmacy store letting people know that you are gonna get laid.
And that’s pretty awesome right? Because whom are we kidding, we were born fuckers. We just managed to hide our Internet history pretty well.
At first sight, it might look as if a woman in India is living her wet dreams.
It might seem that a woman has an upper hand when it comes to finding sex easily.
That her sexuality does not have to build up and wait inside her underwear, like it is for the men, only to get wasted in the bathroom.
That they definitely must not be desperate just because they do not have to wait 30 years for their desires to erupt, for their bodies to have gentle hands laid on them, for their mouths to be poured love into.
Although, the situation is not quite the same. Women in India are as horny as bitches but behind their dupatta or ghunghat because ‘sharam aur laaj hamara gehna hai’.
Her heart is a raging volcano of sexual frustration which she cannot vent out because the Greh shobha magazines offer nothing to quench her thirst, nor do the blowjobs and the booby dominated patriarchal porn.
They’ve given men the myth that it is in their nature to be a ravishing beast and to crave sex more and conditioned women not to step out of the guidelines of purity.
But the truth is, there are no guidelines birthed with us attached to our vaginas.
And let’s not forget the infamous G-spot (which some guys can’t find because their cockiness doesn’t match up with their….You get the gist). The female body was made for the pleasure of sex besides reproduction.
How hard is it to take sex as a healthy habit than a dirty game? It’s a fucking need, chemical locha you can say..
It sucks that many females out there aren’t in touch with their bodies, and can’t truly find out what they like sexually because they’re too busy trying to reach the demands of their selfish misogynistic partner.
The expectations of most men are derived from what they watch in porn in India because I don’t know whom to blame- The 5th grade teacher who made boys and girls sit in different rows or our parents who always made sure to warn us about getting involved into relationships kyunki ye sab ganda hota hai beta.
No wonder, their fantasies are mostly self-centered; the striptease, the emptying over the face, the superstition of ‘squirting’ and the seductive curvature of the ass which solely pleasures them and not the female partner.
For the woman, the act is a sheer maneuver of demonstration, of dispensing of duties, by the end of which she has to lie awake watching the man fall asleep even before she finished.
Things have been changing lately.
Women in India have understood that the sexual power lies not only in the penis but in vagina too.
And there is nothing wrong in being too horny or cocky. We are just being humans and following our inherent instincts instead of fighting them.
There is a reason why we loved the movie- lipstick under my burkha. It is because every women could relate her horny side with each character no matter what age, be it early twenties or late 50’s.
We all have that Menka side inside us but, we just need to groom her a bit. Because showing off our sexuality or our need for it is not a sin and even if it is then I guess we all are partying next in hell.
— Image credit: Huffpost India
