My gf and i are in early 20s. Whenever I initiate, she doesn't feel like doing stuff. We are happy in every which way possible but it is really starting to affect me a lot. I am always left with blue balls. Of late I have a feeling she doesn't find me very attractive. I'm not a bad looking guy I think. I know multiple women who are attracted to me and have been quite vocal about it too. I asked her if she was saving herself or something, she denied it and said she thought it was a really stupid thing to do. She loves me and I know it but I feel I am not good enough for her or she doesn't want to do it with me because I am a little overweight. I would have waited for as long as she wanted but its starting to depress me a little. I tried talking to her about this, she said we can try doing it but she refuses to go ahead at the last minute because she "just doesn't want to". It would be great if someone could help me out here because I am not doing too well.
My GF does not want to have sex with me
Hi @Saurabh Uncle understands your concern dost. And here in India sex is a grand step for many girls
Yet, Uncle thinks your point is very much valid. There is nothing wrong or bad in asking for some intimacy together especially if it is consensual.
Communicate her how you feel about this topic. Try making her understand that being intimate together is a very natural thing. It will help you get to know each other like never before.
Don't use the word sex. Instead use the word intimacy/intimate instead. That should soften the situation and break the barriers. You guys can go for a most basic cuddle and penetration doesn't even have to happen in the very first instance.
Hello @Saurabh. It's really a terrible feeling and I can feel pretty much the same as I went through this too initially. Initimacy is definitely the most desirable feeling of oneself. Well, I may suggest that you just cannot sit and wait for her feelings to arise. You will have to explore all this by your own. You will have to work it out. Just don't go straight ahead for sex. Start by cuddling and making out little. Try this in a theatre if you want. First thing what is required in a relationship to go ahead is Trust. So build that first. Show her the affection via various things, like you may go to a water park, or play pool etc. Just try to make her feel happy and comfortable and moreover, try to make her sexually satisfied. That's much important. You need to seduce her somewhat towards yourself. Don't talk much about sex n all. Just explore the relationship in and out further. Initially my Gf said me dont u dare touch my body without my permission. N now she's the one saving every single penny to make it to Stayuncle dost.! Trust me man, love will a find a way