How do i rescue my friend from his narcissistic GF

#1

I have a friend of mine, who is trapped in a relationship with a narcissistc girlfriend.

He is a wonderful guy, soft compassionate and understanding like a typical empath. I hav been trying vey hard to make him realize that he is getting mentally abused by this woman and he is not able to recognize it. She is absolutely controlling and i see him breaking down inside. He doesn't hav the courage in him to standup against her and ask her to walk away from his life, neither is he having the courage to walk out himself. He is always confused and thinks he is in love with her, where as this is just a typical game of a narcissistic person to keep the strings of the empath in their hands and making them believe that they cannot exist without them.

I have lectured, givn him examples, quoted incidents YET he is hell bent on destroying his life with her. She puts him down, controls his social associations, disrespects him in front of his friends and many other things.

Should i just leave him be to his fate or continue to counsel him? It just seems pointless because he is behaving like a smitten school boy. He agrees with everything i say YET he will not do anything about it. they are both in their early 20s and live with each other.

#2

Hi Arushi... He is lucky to have you as a friend :slight_smile:

You have probably done your best but perhaps you should let him on his own for a while. After all there is no better teacher in life than experience itself.

Let him get burned a bit, what he will appreciate is you for being there when that happens, not for you being there to warn him in advance.

We usually hate those who turn out right, but badly need those who will give us a hug in our hardest hours and not say - I told you so!

Uncle hugs you

#3

i guess this is what there is to it. let him burn and learn his own lessons. I will just be there to hold him when shit goes down. I just hope it is not too late then. Thank you for your advice.